I am posting on my blog after a long time. In last few months I started writing many posts but couldn't complete even one. I wanted to share many experiences but somehow I couldn't finish writing them and left many write ups in between. One of the biggest reasons as to why I wasn't able to write is my pondering over things. I observed people and circumstances. I observed how situations were evolving me! And in between whenever I tried to write something I just couldn't find it worth completing.
I got married in February and since then I am managing a different life that requires a balance amongst all aspects like relationships, money and career. Many good and not-so-good things happened and with the experiences I Learned-Unlearned-Relearned. Today when I look back I find myself as a different being. Probably after few more years, I would even be more changed than what I am today. I find 2014 as the most giving year of my life so far. My experiences and observations helped me grow richer and deeper as a human being this year.
Sharing what I learned or experienced on my blog makes me feel lighter and better. So here is what I have experienced in 2014:
Life is not worth without family however it is better to let go toxic relationships/relatives
We often take our family members for granted. However things change when they are away from us and we don't have a choice to go and meet them. Because we are busy making our lives. And it is not easy to go and meet them whenever we want.
I had this realization after marriage. Now I can't go home as much as I used to go earlier. Not because of my husband but besides job now I have a home to manage . And somehow I feel the sense of responsibility towards it.
During Rakshabandhan when my brother visited me first time after marriage, days spent with him are always memorable for me. I played a responsible and caring sister’s role and he was also very happy seeing me happy. Seriously life isn't worth without the ones who are happy in your happiness. And your family is the one who feel happy when you are happy.
Apart from family, you are lucky if you have friends to share your happiness with. Luckily I have one to share it all.
Though when you are happy and your life is going well, it is the best time to figure out the ones who envy you and your happiness. Once you identify those who envy you like anything, it is better to get rid of them.
Few months back I got rid of an envious family who were my relatives and pretended to be my well-wishers till the time I confronted them.
Behavior of People around you is directly proportional to their understanding of your growth
People used to say this but I never understood it till the time I experienced it. Behavior of People around you is absolutely based on what they think you are.
Whether you think you are successful or not it hardly matters. People will treat you the way they think about your growth.
Honestly speaking I was growing like anything 3 years back, the time when nobody around me gave a damn about my career. And today I am so struck with my things. But the irony is three years back no one cared about me the way they do today because of their perception about my current life and growth.
Sooner or later, you are rewarded for your good work
This is the point of my career when I am getting rewarded for the struggle I did some time back.
When I was struggling I used to think if some day my efforts will be paid off or not. Today my efforts are getting paid off. I am glad.
(However what I am doing now to get rewarded few years later is altogether a different story. I will try to write another post covering how much I am struck currently with no focus and directions to move ahead.)
The difficulty level of the question “What Next” is directly proportional to your growth.
I think being ambitious is in my genes. I have not seen my father but I have heard lot of good stories about how ambitious he was. I have seen my uncle (my father’s brother) who leaves no stone unturned to be successful. He is the source of inspiration to many in our family including me.
I have this habit of asking myself “what next?” from the very beginning of my career.
In your struggling period you always have a zeal that keeps you motivated and you know what next. I always had a quick answer to ‘what next’ few years back.
But when you achieve even something very little and people around make you realize about your achievement, it becomes really hard to come out of the hangover and remain focused on what next.
The only way to have an answer is to always think that I am starting today. And there is no milestone behind.
I wish to get my answer of what next very soon.
People need your shoulder in their bad times but they tend to forget you in their happy times
There will always be people who are close to you and you will not think twice in helping them or advising them in their bad times. However they might forget to share their reason of happiness that helped them get over the sadness with you. At times they might even forget that you supported them when they needed. But it is better to ignore. This is the least you can do for yourself and your peace of mind.
In this post I tried to sum up my experiences and thoughts that were to be written in several different posts. Feel free to share your valuable thoughts and your learnings from life experiences in comments section.